When it comes to parties, it is often said that introverts struggle more than extroverts. It is not because introverts are too shy or that they do not enjoy being with other people. Introverts do enjoy socializing, but sometimes, it can get overwhelming for them.
How can introverts manage their energy and avoid feeling drained in social gatherings? Here are a few hacks.
Spend some quiet time before heading out
Introverts tend to “recharge” by spending some quiet time alone. Before heading out to a party or work meeting, try enjoying a few minutes to yourself. Do some form of self-care, listen to your favorite music, or spend a few minutes meditating.
Enjoy having one-on-ones in social settings
When you can’t handle a huge crowd, it does not mean that you should avoid people altogether. Try socializing with a few people at a time or have one-on-one conversations instead. This will keep your energy focused on one person instead of keeping up with different conversations at once.
Have something in your hand when talking to others
Have you ever experienced not knowing what to do with your hands while talking in front of other people or a huge crowd? Try having something in your hands the way TED Talk speakers hold a clicker.
Perhaps at a party, have a drink in hand. It will give your hands a purpose and help you feel less awkward. It is also better than staring at your phone or checking it from time to time.
Offer to help clear the dining table or refill the refreshments. Having a clear goal of helping out at social gatherings will help you feel less social anxiety.
While this does not totally save you from mingling, you don’t have to worry so much about what to say or whom to speak to because you will be preoccupied with a goal. Who knows, maybe the party needs an awesome playlist, and you just happened to be the perfect person for that.
Take a break
Tired from all the socializing? Manage your energy by taking a break. When you find yourself zoning out, politely excuse yourself from the group discussion, and step out.
Head out to the veranda and breathe in the fresh air. Get in touch with nature and your senses. Find a comfortable space. Enjoy a few minutes to yourself as you regain your energy before heading back to the party.
There is nothing wrong with being an introvert. Let go of the thought that there are certain expectations of other people that you need to meet. Take baby steps, take a deep breath, and take it easy.
Remember that socializing with people is not about forcing yourself to be the life of the party. It is about enjoying yourself, the company of others, and creating meaningful connections. Learn to let go, especially when you are starting to feel like you are having fun!
As an introvert, being aware of your energy level is the key to keeping yourself balanced in any kind of social gathering, and avoid getting drained.